What are you afraid of?
Fear can creep into our lives in many different ways, any of which can be, at best frustrating and restrictive, and at worst crippling and destructive. Fear is often expressed as worry and can be as simple as worrying that you're not good enough, what people think of you, or that you will never find happiness, or success......any of those sound familiar?
When we think of the opposite of fear we consider courage. Plucking up the courage to confront our fears is the way to stand up to this negative emotion which can stop us achieving our goals, following our dreams or even just getting out of bed.
And courage is just that…….standing up to fear.
What if you were to go one step further and not just stand up to fear, but draw yourself towards that which you previously feared? Ah, well that would be curiosity…….and that is the opposite of fear!
What is curiosity? An emotion I think, but even that is a subject of debate. The wonderful thing about curiosity is the simple fact that it attracts you, like a magnet bringing you ever closer to your target. Curiosity is a childlike mindset of adventure that allows us the chance to embrace new ideas, new ways of thinking, it opens the door to new opportunities and ultimately to new paths to that happiness and success that we crave.
Curiosity doesn’t come without a price though. Curiosity comes with the uncertainty of not knowing what happens next, this in turn exposes our vulnerability. We’re vulnerable because we know we may fail, we may get hurt.
So, how about if we change our thinking about failing? About falling down? About getting hurt?
“Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t know”
Many of us choose to stay in a painful situation rather than take action to find a better alternative, and a major reason behind this is uncertainty. “Better the devil you know….” How many people remain in a job they hate that makes them miserable? How many stay in a relationship with someone that has a similar effect?
This is fear taking over, choosing to have certainty (even if it’s unpalatable) over curiosity, or choosing knowing over learning.
But learning is essential to us as human beings, and we learn our most important and effective lessons from our personal experiences. We learn, we grow and we evolve, it’s a constant cycle that is being fed as long as we pay attention to what we are doing and the feedback we are getting from those experiences……and this allows to feel happy, and a success as a human being.
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling
but in rising up every time we fall”
- Confucius -
How often does our mindset hold us back from learning, and therefore growing and evolving, because we are scared of failing?
What would the effect be if you changed your perspective on failing? On falling down? What if you expected to fail or fall down and welcomed those experiences to learn and grow, physically, emotionally and mentally……and return as a wiser, stronger and better version of yourself. Maybe this the key to happiness and success!
It’s time to practice curiosity!
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